The Parable of the Two Sons – Matthew 21:28-32

After Jesus answers a group of Jewish leaders who challenged Jesus’s authority, the questioners remained silent. They refuse to answer the question of the source of John the Baptist’s authority. Jesus therefore presses them by questioning these chief priests with the brief parable of the two sons. Jesus asks them to respond to a “theological / philosophical” puzzle, which he will tie into John’s ministry and those that have repented of their sins because of the preaching of John.

The Parable of Two Sons

A father asks two sons to go work in a field, one says that he will, but does not, the other says he will not, but feels guilty and does go to work. To refuse to do what a father asks is insulting to the father, and it in fact an act of rebellion. “The surprise is the father tolerates this” (Nolland, Matthew, 861). To work in the family vineyard is something a father would expect his sons to do.

The first son initially refuses, but “changes his mind.” This word (μεταμέλομαι) is not the normal word for repentance in the New Testament although it is similar. There is a sense of regret in the word (TDNT 4:626), maybe “to have second thoughts.” Jesus will use the word again in verse 32, the elders who rejected John have not “changed their minds” or regretted that decision and followed Jesus.

The second son responds positively, “I will go sir.” He is apparently a respectful and obedient child. But he never does go to the vineyard and work.  If the first son was insulting, this son is overly polite and appears obedient, but he is not.  The word “sir” is the word normally translated “lord” (κύριος) and was used generally the way we might use the word sir today. The translation is a good one, but it obscures some very critical parallels in Matthew’s gospel.

There are several people in Matthew who refer to Jesus (or a character in a parable that is by implication either Jesus or God) as “lord.” Simply to call on Jesus as “sir” is not enough, there must be a transformation of a person’s whole being to become a part of the Kingdom of heaven (Matt 7:21-22; 25:11-13; 25:44).

The second son is “all talk and no deeds.” The first son refused, not make any promise yet ends up doing the deeds that are expected of him.

Which son did want the father wanted (21:31-32)? The obvious answer is that the one who went and work for the father is the one that did the will of the father. The scribes that respond are condemning themselves with this answer, since clearly the son that does not go into the field represents them.

What is unusual (to me at least) is that neither son is the ideal. Which would you rather have, a child that refuses to obey but eventually does, or a son that says the right words, but never obeys in the end? The third possibility is a son that says that he will obey and then actually does what he says that he will do. Perhaps this is the case of the person who has entered the kingdom of heaven, they can promise to obey God and they can follow through on that promise with obedience.

What is the meaning of the Parable of the Two Sons? The point of the contrast is between the religious establishment and the under-class, Jesus does not have the third possibility in mind here. There would logically be a fourth possibility, the one who refuses to obey and never repents either. This might be the unsaved person that dies in their unbelief, but they are even further from the point of the parable!

There are two other possibilities, a son who does immediately what he is told, and a son who refuses and never changes his mind. It is possible there were followers of Jesus who immediately followed him and never turned back (Peter and the other disciples?) and others heard Jesus and immediately dismissed him as “not the Messiah” (Sadducees? Caiaphas?). But the parable is not concerned with the best or worst examples, it is the people in the middle who are called to respond to Jesus.

There is good news for both sons: the father did not punish them for their insult. This demonstrates the patience of God, like the father he wants both children to go to the vineyard and he is willing to wait for them to change their mind.

The bad news is the time of God’s patience is running out. The chief priests and elders must decide now who Jesus is. In a few days, they will do just that as they shout to Pilate for Barabbas to be released and Jesus crucified (Matt 27:20).

8 thoughts on “The Parable of the Two Sons – Matthew 21:28-32

  1. Didn’t Jesus forgive them all on the cross? Romans 3:22

    Woodrow Nichols

  2. No. Forgiveness does not actually happen unless the party comes to be reconciled and receives it. Jesus says elsewhere, “If your brothers sins rebuke him, if he repents, forgive him.” When the ones who cried out “let his blood be on us and on our children” this was meted out after God gave them about 35 years to repent. The forgiveness Jesus uttered wasn’t automatically applied. This expresses the intent of the heart. God makes the decision. (Provided that the “Father forgive them” verse spoke by Jesus is even authentic. There is some serious manuscript doubt here.)

    Further, based on other things that Jesus said, clearly the first son was clearly an apostate and not right with God. Jesus makes it clear again and again that part of being right with him is someone who is obeying his instructions and doing.

    (Note: This passage was actually the theme of the message the past Sunday at our assembly.)

  3. This is a very interesting parable, as it states in the post, neither is ideal, and that the ideal is one who says yes and does. The reason that I feel like many people can resonate with this parable is that most people are caught as one of these two people. Sometimes I feel like I could fall into either category. Being the person who disobeys, but comes back and does the work feels relatable, as we have all done that, and the other feels the same, as I know I’ve said I was going to do something, and never do. Ultimately, God wants us to do the work, but we just need to be more willing, in listening, and follow through

  4. I believe that God wants us to do the work, that we should just be more willing to listening, and follow through with rules and other things set into place for us to live a prosperous life amongst each other. We all probably have fell to being at least one of these from the parable but i think it is important that the way we respond to adversity and other things goes a long way with shaping ourselves into what we want to be become, for me, being a better person every day is ideal and worth it.

  5. I believe that this parable would be interpreted in many different ways. In the Parable a father asks his son to work in a field. One says yes but does not do it. The other says that he will not but allows his guilt to take over and does the work anyway. Something that struck me is the fact that neither son is ideal. Even though neither son is ideal their father does not punish nor put them out. Long helps us understand that this is demonstrating the patience of God. God is waiting for his children to follow in his ways and to give their lives to Christ. Today we are a lot like the sons. Sometimes my mom asks my siblings and I to do things. I am usually the sibling who ends up doing all of the work. Sometimes that gets annoying so I try to say no but once my brothers say no as well, I feel guilty so I do it anyway. We only get one mom. We should WANT TO no matter how annoying or tiring it may get. We need to walk in Faith and trust God and his plans for us. There shouldn’t be a guilty feeling when it comes to doing what God wants us to do.

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