Paul devotes a great deal of space to the care of widows in 1 Timothy, likely because this was a problem for Timothy in Ephesus. The Hebrew Bible has a remarkable interest in the protection of widows (Exod 22:22; Deut 10:18; Ps 146:9; Deut 24:17-21). Based on the commands in the Law, Jews in the Second Temple Period took care of widows who had no protector. But what was the status of widows in the Greco-Roman World? When a woman married in the Greek world, she brought a dowry to the marriage. That dowry was managed by her husband; if he died then the dowry would be managed by her son. Winter cites W. K. Lacey, “the law was explicit; the person who had charge of her dowry had the obligation to maintain her” (117).
The situation in Roman culture was similar. In A.D. 9, Augustus created legislation which required a widow would re-marry if she were under 50. “‘There can be little doubt, that young widows, even if they had children, were expected to remarry,’ for remarriage provided a secure option for the younger widow” (Winter, 85).
For older widows, both Greek and Roman laws provided for widows. Winter comments that from a legal perspective, “a woman was never as thoroughly protected as she was in her old age” (86). As in most cultures, the law would not have protected every woman and many women may have found themselves widowed at a young age and without a protector. This would be especially true of the poor who perhaps did not have much of a dowry in the first place. Unlike contemporary culture, women in the Roman world had status and “social identity” through their family; first through their father, then later through their husband (Towner, The Pastoral Epistles, 334). To be single, widowed or divorced was not a normal status for a Roman woman.
Paul’s concern in this section is care for widows who are genuinely in need. Be begins in verse three with a general principle, honor widows. While the noun τιμάω does have the general meaning of honor, “set a price on,” etc., given the context Paul uses the word to refer to financial support of widows by the community of believers. Verses 5-8 are directed at families with widows. Paul is very clear that children and grandchildren have an obligation to care for their own elderly parents. This is essentially the point of the fifth commandment, to honor ones own father and mother. The verb is the same is used in both the commandment and this text, the allusion seems clear.
The context in 1 Tim 5 clearly refers to financial support for widows who have no other means of support (family, etc.) “Honor” here has the connotation of financial support, both here and in verse 17, where it refers to honoring the elder who teaches.
Why are there so many widows in the church? Why would Paul need to devote such a long section to their care? One factor is that most women in the first century married much older men. Evidence for this comes from Roman census records from Egypt, where 87% of marriages were to older men, from one to thirty years older. The early church reached out to the poor and slaves. It is entirely likely that this meant that a sizable minority in each church were un-supported widows. There may have been an attraction to Christianity because the church offered to help support a poor widow in ways that Roman society was not able or willing.
Paul uses the phrase “let a widow be enrolled,” implying that the church ought to keep track of women who were in need. The verb καταλέγω is used for enrolling someone a member of a group, like a soldier joining the army or a “membership list” for a religious organization (POxy 416, 4, for example).
Since the opponents in Ephesus rejected marriage, it is at least possible that they rejected other family obligations. Perhaps they used Paul’s own teaching about a “new creation” in Christ Jesus to argue that they had no obligation to other family members. If a person became a Christian, they might say, their old life is buried with Christ and they are under no obligation to care for widows in their own family, especially if they were unbelieving (Padgett, 21).
Paul wants the churches in Ephesus to care for widows who are in genuine need primarily because the church is a family. His Jewish worldview would see it as shameful for a family to not “honor their mother” by refusing to help a widow in need. This sort of care for those who cannot care for themselves was something the church must do if they are going to be the people of God.
What are some practical ways this care for widows can be expressed in a modern context?
Bibliography: W.K. Lacey, The Family in Classical Greece (London, Thames and Hudson 1968). Bruce. W. Winter, “Providentia For The Widows Of 1 Timothy 5:3-16,” Tyndale Bulletin 39 (1988), 82-99; J.M. Bassler, “The Widows’ Tale: A Fresh Look at 1 Tim. 5:3–16,” JBL 103 (1984): 23-41; A. Padgett, “Wealthy Women at Ephesus: 1 Timothy 2:815 in Social Context,” Interpretation 41 (1987): 21.
I find it so fascinating when looking at the argument of whether or not the young widows in the early church should remarry or not. Paul spoke much on how singleness was almost better than being married at that point in time because everyone thought Christ was going to return very soon. However, when Paul made these statements, people took them a little too literally and essentially frowned upon the young widows who were remarrying. Paul made it a point to say that it was perfectly fine for the young widows to remarry as the widows did not have a man to take care of them and they could not go back to their families for support (leave and cleave). This was one way the widows of the church could be supported: by remarrying, they could therefore have more stability in their life and did not depend on the church for needs.
But what about the older widows who were point the past of remarrying? This is where it was important for the church to care for them in any way they could. To tie in the elders of the church, one of their responsibilities as an elder is to steward or shepherd the “flock” and provide for those who were in need. One way an elder could perform this duty was by pouring into the older widows within their church, whether that be financially or just by encouraging them and coming alongside them when they are in need of community with a fellow believer.
On the flip side, one way the older widows could help serve others in the church was to mentor the younger women. The impact a mentor can have on one’s life is so incredible and underrated.
Elderly widows need assistance because they are truly widows, having not received support from their husbands and not having enough money to support themselves. Because of their age and being old enough to be treated well, they should be treated as mothers with dignity and respect. If they are in the church, then the church should also assist them if they do not have any family. Real widows do not really have family or relatives anymore because they are left alone. They are more likely helpless, so the church has responsibilities to take care of them. Some people have so many pleasures in their lives that they enjoy their money and have fun, so they are not living a godly life. But when they need help, especially financially, they come to the church for help. They do not deserve assistance because they are not living godly lives and they choose to have fun and entertainment. But a widow’s life is a living death, and they do not choose that life, and they are experiencing it in their lives. They do not wish or choose to have that kind of life, but they have it. The church should always be with the widows and give them any assistance they may need. Even if they cannot help too much, they should help them as much as they can.
I don’t think there will be a big difference, the way we take care of the widows from the early church and this present time. We believe in Christ Jesus and He commended us to love one another (Matthew 22:39), and to take care of each other: ‘’ carry each other’s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ’’ (Galatians 6:2). So in this modern world, we can take care of widows in three simple ways, one: supporting them financially. They might not have enough money to get what they need, especially those who have family support. Two: by Social connection. Sometimes people who are suffering need more relationships than financial. They just want someone to talk and share their life and what they have been through to release their pain. We can be good listeners. Lastly, Spiritual Guidance. This is the most important. People will not be encouraged without God. to be able to overcome the suffering, all they need is Jesus. For that we are the best to share the word of God, the good news of Jesus and how and what he can do that he is a living hope and peace giver.
Caring for widows is one of the most practical ways someone can express their faith in Christ. If we look to the beatitudes(Matthew 5), Jesus constantly mentions the poor, meek, and those who would generally be outcasts and a burden. Jesus flipped the Greco-Roman norms upside down and said those people were blessed. James, the brother of Jesus, agrees and writes about this, “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world” (James 1:27). As you mentioned, “The Hebrew Bible has a remarkable interest in the protection of widows (Exod 22:22; Deut 10:18; Ps 146:9; Deut 24:17-21)” (Phillip Long). God clearly has a deep care for widows and those who would otherwise be forgotten.
Paul continues this trend in 1 Timothy. He makes it extremely clear that other believers in the church are meant to care for these widows. We can see this here: “Failure to put one’s “religion into practice” along these lines is regarded as a denial of the faith and as being “worse than an unbeliever” (TTP 263). Paul makes an extremely radical and potentially even offensive command to those in Ephesus. If they don’t care for the widows, they not only are missing the mark as a Christian, but they are even worse than the pagans surrounding them. It could not be more obvious that the church needs to put a heavy focus on caring for groups such as widows.
Nowadays, there aren’t as many young widows in the church, but there are plenty of other groups of outcasts that we can care for. This includes the homeless, disabled, and even the elderly. We can’t assume one’s situation based on stereotypes. The most effective way to gauge their situation is by knowing them and building a genuine relationship with them. As a church, we are a family; families in the ancient world and modern world are meant to care for one another and provide for one another. If we are serious about our faith, we must sacrifice our time, finances, and abilities to care for the oppressed and outcast members of our church and society.